The Father Difference
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When God the Father makes a difference in us, we can make the same difference in our children's lives.
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The Father Difference
God's Plan to Re-Father You Will Change Everything
The promise of fatherhood represents God sharing His most significant role with us, giving men the opportunity to reflect His character to their children and make a profound difference in their lives. When we understand how God fathers us, we can father our children in ways that unlock their potential and shape their identity.
• Fatherhood is one of the greatest gifts to men, enabling them to profoundly impact their children's lives
• The first image children have of God is often through how their fathers treat them
• Children constantly watch and imitate their fathers, looking to them for identity and approval
• Fathers who didn't receive proper fathering themselves can be "re-fathered" by God
• Being physically and emotionally present for children creates powerful moments of connection
• Creating family traditions like cooking meals together can provide opportunities for meaningful conversations
• The way we father our children affects not just them but everyone they interact with
• Understanding God as our Father equips us to become the parents our children need
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Well, welcome, I'm your host, Ed Tanney-McLasson, and welcome to the Father Difference Live. We got started just a little bit late tonight and I'm kind of dropping in the slides right now. We had a little technical difficulty, but I am here. I am so grateful that you're here. Difficulty, but I am here. I am so grateful that you're here and I am looking forward to sharing this incredibly powerful you know picture of what God does in our lives and really there's something that's really powerful for you and I thought I'd just play this clip for you.
Speaker 2:What kind of father do you want to be? What kind of man do you want to become for your family and for yourself? If you've ever wondered how to step into the fullness of your role as a father, husband and man of God, then you're in the right place. Here at the Father Difference, our mission is to inspire and equip men to be the best fathers they can be. It's a powerful mission and today we're going to explore exactly how you can take steps toward that calling. Whether you're a father, a son, a husband, grandfather, single dad, stepfather, or just looking to grow, grow. I believe god has something powerful for you in today's message. Whether you're tuning in live or watching this later, we are so excited to have you here. If this is what you're looking for, then subscribe so you can tune in each week to the father difference live. You can sign up below and now your host, a husband, father, grandfather, author and former NFL player, Pastor Ed McGlasson.
Speaker 1:Hey, welcome. It's good to be with you here from a bright and sunny side in California. Love to hear where you are today. I'm flying solo, my team is en route but out of cell phone range, but I am so glad to be here with you and, yes, I'm sporting my Make Fathers Great Again. That's what God, I think, is it up to, even in our election, in our country and in your country in the world, is that God's doing something that, profoundly, will change and empower you, dad, to be the best husband and father you can be. If you're married, if you're single or a single dad, your voice matters. We're going to talk about the gift of fatherhood today and why that's so important and why is that such an powerful thing in the world today. So I'm going to start. I want you just to take a minute and just think about maybe a word to describe something that you got from your dad. You could have had kind of a dad that wasn't there and never had a father, or a dad that was there but maybe not emotionally present, or a father that sewed things into you. I'd love to hear from you. Welcome, dave, tonight, those of you who are joining.
Speaker 1:As I said earlier. I'm flying solo and I was an offensive center and I should be able to do this because I had to snap the ball. Listen to the calls, listen to the checkoff colors Omaha, omaha or something like that. Get the ball to the quarterback. Handle the nose guard that was in front of me, which I sort of kind of do in my ministry here that God's given me. I kind of help men root out that nose guard of unbelief that trying to, you know, make your life hell. Snap you to football, dad, you get to play quarterback and ultimately, the way you father your kids can make a change not only in the way you see yourself, but for their lives as a dad, and that's because God wants to make fathers great again. He wants you to do that.
Speaker 1:I know that looks like the Trump hat and you're thinking I'm being all political. Well, I'm not totally being political, but I think this vote is probably the most important for fathers and men that we've probably had in my lifetime. I encourage you, if you haven't voted yet, get out and vote. So important to do that, and I'm praying for my brothers in the church that we would, you know, really put our money where our heart is and get out there and make a difference and vote, because if we don't vote, somebody else is getting to choose how you father your family, choose how you live in your city those mayors, the city council members, the school board members all of those. It's really important. You might not even like the personality of the people you're voting for, but you vote based on the criteria of what the Bible has called us to live in as a family the things you need as a dad, as a husband, as a father and your family. So get out there and vote. So I encourage you. That's my commercial for doing that, but I'm sporting this hat and I love wearing it around.
Speaker 1:But I want you to imagine and come up maybe with a single word in your mind of your experience with your dad. It could be a powerful word. I know I've shared this at many, many conferences around the world. I've actually done events in 14 different countries. My book, the Difference a Father Makes, now has spread to over 231 countries. If you're a donor or you're a part of our stewardship team, thank you so much for what you're giving. You're enabling that book, the Difference a Father Makes, to get everywhere and we give that away absolutely free, and God asks us to do it, and we're trusting them to keep the wheels on the bus while the bus is still going out every day and spreading this message.
Speaker 1:So what's that single word you take away from your time of being fathered by your dad? And so we're talking about, really, the promise of fatherhood is kind of today and God sharing the most significant role he has as a Father to His creation, to us, to the world, and we are never more like God. You know, someone once wrote I don't know who the original writer was that the first image of who God can possibly be is the way your children look at you, dad. Well, I didn't know that until early, dad, how about you? But I just had to make the money, come home, keep them safe. All part of the problem, jill, was raising the kids, but I didn't know that my words and the way I fathered them could have such a significant impact.
Speaker 1:And to really be the kind of man that becomes a great father, you learn how to really do the things that really can unlock your children into the life, into the plan that God has for them, because I think I don't know a single dad who doesn't want their kids to maybe be a better man or a better father one day than they are, and so you can't just hope that that happens on purpose. And there's probably nothing more powerful in the whole world, in any community, than fathers who are making a difference. Guys, just like you, father and your kid, you might not think you make much of a difference, but I got to tell you. I'm on social media and you know we're all over the place, just all over the world. Oh, there, I am in front of Mount Sinai. They're one of my paintings in my studio. But we're, you know, when we get in front of kids, they're watching all the time. They're watching all the time, they're constantly looking at us, they're following us, they're imitating us, and so that kind of man that we are, and the more we connect to who God, the Father's, called us to be, the bigger impact we're going to make. And so when you think of that word was it positive or negative with your dad and I got really good news for you.
Speaker 1:One of the greatest truths about the gospel of Jesus is that if, say, your dad didn't really know how to be a good father to you, well, you don't need to be stuck the rest of your life struggling being a dad. He has actually a plan to re-father you in a way where you can bless your dad, because you realize that, because I know that most dads, even dads who started really bad, want to be the best dads they can be. They just never got much training equipment from their own fathers. My stepdad, who was the dad of my story, my real dad, was killed in action. He did the best of what he had. He went to work every day in the Navy submarine service, submarine commander. He struggled when he came home, not quite knowing what to do.
Speaker 1:I remember one of those early fathering moments where he discovered that you know he was watching me in baseball step out of the batter's box, which is causing me to strike out, because I was afraid in the very beginning playing baseball I would get hit by the ball. So I was scared of that little round thing that was coming. It wasn't going 100 miles an hour like Nolan Ryan, but to a little kid I mean, that's a projectile. And so he got really frustrated one day about you know with me. It's like what's wrong with you, and he probably didn't handle it really well. But he went out and he took one of my football helmets, put it on my head, got 10 feet away from me at a playground, got on the pitcher's mound and started throwing balls right at my helmet. And started throwing balls right at my helmet and he goes. Did that hurt? And it made me cry at first and then it made me mad and so, really, once it ricocheted off my helmet it was like that didn't hurt, you know. So he threw it again.
Speaker 1:I remember one of the training times I hit one right back at him. I mean, I hit it. I got so mad at him I forgot about how fast the ball was coming. I hit it right back at him and it hit him kind of in the family jewels, you know, I'm just like an eight-year-old kid, you know, and he's like going down and he's now mad at me. Then I know it's a miracle that I hit one.
Speaker 1:I was just so afraid. The fear was hitting me but I had that helmet on it made me angry. I hit him and he goes. You did that on purpose and me, being a smart ass kid, I went. That would have had to be in a real good shot. That, and me being a smart-ass kid I went. That would have had to be in a real good shot. That was such a small area. He did not appreciate that. That did not go well in the car, in the way. But you know what he gave me, what he had, and you know I got hit by the ball a number of times and it never bothered me because you know I took the shots, and the hard shots from my dad. Now you might say, well, that was kind of abusive, well, it was on the edge of that. I didn't get hurt or not, but he was trying to help me face my fear. Dad, there is like a powerful anchor for the forming of your identity as a boy or as a daughter, and when you don't have that in your story, you struggle Because you look, you're always looking for him. It's amazing. My wife never missed a single event. But, boy, things changed when I walked on the baseball field and sat in the stands. Things changed when I showed up at my son's golf match and he saw me. There's that look from the field, there's a look towards the stands, because God's put something in you that nobody else will ever carry A great friend of mine, a football coach.
Speaker 1:He had one game to make it into the playoffs for the first time and he was all excited. He's back in Boise and has a great church out there and he had this kid on the team that always wanted to play but he never let him get in. He was always just, you know, he was afraid he was going to get hurt. He was just so skinny and so he it was the last drive of the game. They had the ball, they were.
Speaker 1:They were down by three points, which are arch nemesis are playing against another team and the clock is running down, the field is sloppy because of all the rain running down the field is sloppy because of all the rain, and so this kid, just all game long, is going over and just going. Can I play? Can I play? Let me just go in for one play. And so the coach last game of the season kid didn't play a single play out in the field the whole year. He goes okay, go in, go, pull somebody out. And so he's getting ready to call a play to send in with one of his running backs and he looks out of the corner of his eyes and he sees his quarterback running off the field, the field, and this kid who's like you know, he's five foot 11, a hundred and nothing pounds with his football gear, you know, kind of hung on him like wet drapes, right, he didn't fill that out and he went. And by the time the coach is trying to run down to call timeout, the fans are screaming. It's the last play of the game. And this kid gets under center and calls a play and the quarterback the center snaps the ball, it goes through the hands of this kid who had not played all year and it hydroplanes between his legs where he doesn't even get the ball and it goes right back to the fullback who picks it out of the mud, runs to the right scores and wins the game. And the plays went crazy. They're in the playoffs for the first time.
Speaker 1:This kid, who never plays, he's jumping all over the field, right Like Kermit the Frog, right From the Muppets, and he's just screaming how did I do? How did I do? And the head coach is going what do you mean? How did you do? You weren't supposed to go in and play quarterback. How did I do? He kept saying how did I do? You weren't supposed to go in and play quarterback. How did I do? He kept saying how did I do? And the coaches go, what do you mean, how do you do? And he realized that the boy on the field was looking over his head into the stands and his father, who had never come to a football game, was in the stands screaming you did great, son, you did great.
Speaker 1:And imagine having that kind of experience with your dad. Maybe you had some of those, but imagine altogether that you had that kind of relationship with God, the Father. Imagine Him being in your story, because when you're not fathered, you have the potential of just a devastating end for so many. I mean, if you want to get the symptom of the culture that we live in, the craziness of our culture. Even some of the yahoos are in the craziness of our culture. Even some of the yahoos are trying to run into the political spectrum. Unfathered girls, unfathered boys, those who had dads, have a far different level of character and fall through than those who didn't. It's a reality and it's a sad story.
Speaker 1:Last week I shared with you just about the famous boy band Liam Payne. This is the last image he put up on his Instagram and this is what they found in his hotel room. And if you know his story at all. He had grown up in a home. The divorce of his parents caused, in his own words, a lot of trauma, in his own words, a lot of trauma, and he had to deal with his father going in and out of addiction and he made a pledge two years before this that, when asked about his dad, because it was very hurtful to him, because he loved his father you could have been a really bad dad, but your children love you and they need you in their story to help them navigate and discover who God's calling them to be and when you're not there or you get separated and you're not connecting with them.
Speaker 1:I mean, this kid had it all and, you know, went through a you know, one of those America Got Talent shows and became this rock star and made all this money. And now his father just is living with the fact that he got dislocated from his son and his son evidently from these drugs right here on this table that he was partying with. One of the drugs was pink cocaine. I don't even know what that is. He lost his balance on a balcony and fell to his death. Just imagine, maybe imagine, what his life could have been differently if Liam had had a dad? I mean, here's his statement in 2019 about his dad's addiction that it had a significant impact on his childhood. But today, jeff, my dad has made his efforts to recover and rebuild his life. Liam now is focusing on his music and personal well-being and it doesn't matter how much we hate those broken places in our own father.
Speaker 1:If we don't get those healed in us in a real way, get re-fathered in our own story, we can pass that right along. And you know what's interesting? I ask this in my men's conferences around the world the ones you know how many of you made promises as a dad to not do some of the same hurtful things that your father did to you, to your children? And boy hands go up everywhere. I said how many of you have broken the same promises? Notice, every same hand goes up. It's because we start out our model of manhood and who we are and being a father based on how we were fathered.
Speaker 1:And if those things that we carry from our childhood don't get dealt with and we ultimately give those to God to deal with and in a real way we're going to see in a moment re-father us, we can carry those into our children's lives and the same beast and the same giant that we didn't defeat that was in us becomes the same giant our children have to face us becomes the same giant our children have to face and because we don't defeat it, it becomes this undefeatable foe. And even though you might hate what your dad had done or didn't do in your own story, you can't will yourself into a place of being different, because 50% of you is your dad, 50% your mom, and you know God's made fathers and mothers to be these two amazing opportunities to be and to be present and loving with our children in profound ways. So how's God going to do that? How's he going to change some of that in us? Well, here's a few thoughts I want to share with you. I'll let you know at the end. There's going to be an offer. We also have an online coaching community where there's a longer version of what I'm doing here that's available for those who join our Fatherhood Academy. We have an academy online for fathers and brand new thing We've had it for a while under a different name and so that academy is a place for you to go and grow and learn how to be the best father you can be. If you're interested, hang around to the end. I've got a special offer for you.
Speaker 1:And so you know, jesus made this statement and no, I've got a statement that Jesus made, but in the book of Lamentations as he's. You know, writing this book and looking at the culture after the Babylonian empire was just a really perverted. And you know everything that we're experiencing now in our culture, in the United States of America and around the world, I mean all the craziness, the gender confusion, all that kind of stuff was happening around the people of Israel and God's promise was that he was their healer and if they didn't follow after these other gods of the land, these other idols of the land, god would heal them and keep those things from grabbing them. But the result of it, of being in the midst of this time, is, you know he's writing the book of Lamentations. He writes this verse and it just hit me right between the eyes and it says Orphans, we are not a father in sight and our mothers are no better than widows.
Speaker 1:And you know, beloved, right now in the United States of America there are too many kids singing this song. You know there's a pastor in Chicago, or maybe Detroit, rooftop Revelations. If you've never seen this guy or watched him, I encourage you to support him, pray for him. He got up on the roof and he's rebuilding these shelters for these unfathered boys and girls and giving them he's really refathering him Just a marvelous. Marvelous expression of what a man can do for a kid without a dad.
Speaker 1:But the promise you know, and that's kind of orphans. We are not a father in sight and yet, boy, isn't that true? And it doesn't need to be that way. And part of that is that the devil knows that if he can get you, or the other fathers you know, or the men you know that are dads, are going to be dads and being overwhelmed and away from being good fathers to their children, becoming a great father to their family history, he can get your kids and he can get your grandkids. That's what he wants. But the devil wants to be the one to inform your sons, your daughters, your grandkids who they are. And isn't it interesting? And every time there's rebellion on the earth, it's like the deviation away from God's plan of true identity all becomes about. You know, people begin to name themselves around their sexual appetites, and who is the best guy to marshal that in a family. It's a dad, a dad who walks with God, a dad who, you know, builds a home that's safe and pays attention to the struggles of the kids. I mean, I'm saying these things because you, my friend, are an amazing gift. I'm saying these things because you, my friend, are an amazing gift.
Speaker 1:There's an incredible speech that happened at one of the—you can find it Tucker Carlson, and the title of it. I called it. It said Dad's Home and he's Pissed. He talked about family and fatherhood and how, as a dad, that fathers need to rise up. We can't just, you know, politically call them out and demonize them and bust them up, because there's so much shame that comes towards us when we know we're not quite the father we need to be. But God has a plan to change that in you, to change that in me and man, that's good news. And now the Bible says this.
Speaker 1:But there's this great promise from Jesus in John 14. He says I won't leave you as orphans. He's talking at the end of His ministry with His people. He's talking about the end of his ministry with his people. He's talking about the Father and the love of his Father. And he goes I won't leave you as orphans. The word orphan there is probably best translated I won't leave you fatherless. Because he's talking to men and women and to disciples who had dads on earth. They weren't orphans like. They got no dad. They have no mom Not in good English there, right but they didn't have that father and he'd been modeling who the father was over and over.
Speaker 1:And look what he says. Yet in a little while and the world will see me no more, but you're going to see me, see, when we have Christ and born again. He's with us, he's in us and we get to see Him working in our lives and through our lives, we get to experience and do things that we could not possibly do without Him. Because I live. He says "'Because I live' he says, "'you also live'". I mean, that's his promise to you and to me. I grab that word today. That's mine, you know. I find something in the Bible that's powerful. I grab it, I go. That's mine. You know, because you live, jesus, and you're in me, I'm going to live.
Speaker 1:And then he goes "'And that day when you understand—because Christ is going to leave His disciples and leave them on earth not alone—He sends the promise of the Holy Spirit. But he's talking about. Not only that when he goes and he's crucified and he's raised from the dead, something gets to change for you and me. And that day you will know. You're going to know something when you see me go up, even when he went up, finally to His Father. And that day you're going to know that I'm in my Father, I am in my Father, me and my Father are one. And not only that I got to tell you what a promise here and you are in me and I in you. It's the way that you know. When you say it that way, it's like you're in me. We all know that. We know the desire of Jesus is to live in you, to build His home on earth in you. You're even called the temple of the Holy Spirit, and he does that because he wants you to experience what it's like to be a son, to be loved, to have somebody with you as a man, where you're not trying to do life alone.
Speaker 1:I meet so many guys around the world that don't have other guys to talk to. I was with a young squire this past week and he has some people, but he doesn't have anybody to talk to when he's broken. He doesn't have a guy there to lift his arms up when he's knocked down. Hey, good to see you, jill, welcome, chris, I love you Great. They're my cousins. I got to spend time with their amazing son, who's an actor who came out, been eating some carnivore steaks with him. So good to have you here and, bennett, good to see you here as well. But something, by the way, you raised an extraordinary son. Just love who he is hanging out with him.
Speaker 1:I I gotta tell you I just I'm sorry I'm I'm digressing a little bit. I saw some of my friends online hanging out with your son. I know that when I get to hang around somebody's son, I get to really understand who the mom and dad are. And I got to tell you I've been around a lot of young people I mean all kinds of young people and they're like into themselves, whatever, they're distracted all the time. But I've never had somebody like your son come here, hang out with me, eat steaks with me, fed him some great steaks, great conversation, asking these great questions about how to walk with God and do acting and all that kind of stuff here in LA, and he must have thanked me 50 times. I mean I just can't tell you how much this means to me. Thank you so much. He's just so polite. He's like a Southern gentleman.
Speaker 1:So I think, chris, when that's my cousin, and Jill, his amazing, beautiful bride, by the way, if you ever get around them, they are you. Just look them up on Instagram. They have these wellness things. They do with people and, by you, want your health to turn around. These are people that you want to go to. They're powerful, they're just powerful people. So enough of that, but back to kind of what I was sharing about as I saw, my friends. Isn't it great when your friends are around, when your family is around. They're my kin. I remember saying to Colin you have access here to me, in my house, in my home, in my family, because you are kin. Guys, god's done so many things in me to bring me to that point, to where you, your role as a father, is not just for your kid but it's also for those that your kids hang around.
Speaker 1:I remember in high school you talk about the miraculous change in yours truly when I first got married. I mean everything was about football, my diet, my stuff, me working out, and my kids were a distant third. Jill was sort of number two, but the ministry and the travel many times pushed her to number three or four. The ministry and the travel many times pushed her to number three or four and God had to do something in me because I discovered quickly that my identity had shifted from pro football to now trying to prove myself with God and ministry and any kind of identity that we build. It may be a great thing you do. If you lose your family. You won't ever feel like you break through the way you need to, though God can redeem all those stories you don't want to lose. Your kids and Callie and I were talking together is that God began to give me not only a heart for my daughters and my sons.
Speaker 1:I took them to dances and I took my daughter Mary to a prom dance because she couldn't find a man in the high school, and I trained her. Only to go out with men. So they actually had the interview with me and none of them passed the test. Only to go out with men. So they actually had the interview with me and none of them passed the test. I chased a lot of these pretenders away. I scared the crap out of them. I did. I looked at them and I didn't clean my shotgun in front of them but I let them know where my gun came from.
Speaker 1:And I had this one guy who was so nervous when he came in to date my daughter that he misspoke. And he said can I have your daughter? I said what you know? Can I have her? I said, oh no, you can't have my daughter. No, no, no, I mean, I'm sorry, I'm just so nervous, I want to take her on a date. And I just looked at him and I said young man, young squire, I'm sure your intentions are good, but you're just not man enough to take my daughter on a date.
Speaker 1:Yet when you give your life to Christ and here and then I gave him my book, the Difference Our Father Makes. And when you give your life to Christ and here—and then I gave him my book, the Difference Our Father Makes I said you read my book, come back in about a year and take another shot, because my daughter Mary will just eat you up. She's too much of a woman. You will get totally discouraged. And although she's beautiful and you want to date her, she's ready, but you're not. And he looks at me and his dumbfounded look changes to gosh. I wish you would have been my dad. You know my sister. She's 17 years old and she's pregnant, trying to decide if she's going to have an abortion, and my father just makes a lot of money. He's just not around and I'm here to tell you there's dad rises up or mom, and really becomes that father or that mom, because God also wants to make moms great again To your children. They need you as parents more than anything else right now to navigate the distraction of this little device that interrupts families, that costs more than our electricity per phone. Isn't it crazy the way we live? Instant communication, and so it's Christ in you. And Jesus promised he won't leave his office. Oh yeah, let me finish that story.
Speaker 1:They started so I take Mary to the dance and there's a whole bunch of guys there watching me, this old fart who had popped four Advil and went out on the dance floor and man, I was doing my best and I told him. I said I'm not responsible and her girlfriends all left their dates like a big, gigantic huddle with about 20 girls. A lot of them were cheerleading friends and my daughter, mary, and and we I was spinning them and dancing with them and you know, and I said I'm going to bust the move and I'm not responsible for what it might do. And they played along with me and I I tried to do something. You know, I'm still a white boy, but I got. You know, I got some brother in me too, and they all acted like whoo, you know, and we had such a fun time.
Speaker 1:And the next morning we got up and Mary said Dad, you'll just never know how much that meant to me for you to be there. And I have all these friends who just they want a dad like you. And I said, well, invite them over, I'll cook, like what we used to do is cook these gigantic spaghetti dinners. I mean, just we would fill up these gigantic pasta bowls. I'm not even Italian, but I like to eat gigantic pasta bowls. I'm not even Italian, but I like to eat. And so I, you know I would make what we'd call this triple sauce. You know it was a Parmesan sauce, it was. You know all these different sauces. We'd make fettuccine, alfredo sauce and arbiata sauce and these gigantic dishes, and sit around and just do family and ultimately, those nights, my daughters would lead a lot of the conversations. And it was. It was incredible.
Speaker 1:My wife and I and her brothers and sisters, we just did family in front of these girls and prayed for many of them, saw many of them come to Christ. Nothing fancy, nothing sophisticated, but just being there was incredibly powerful. There was incredibly powerful and I'm sharing this with you tonight because—and there's a part two to all of this and a matter of fact I'd love to invite you even to our live coaching. There's an extended version of this. I'm going to finish the rest of this next week just for the sake of time.
Speaker 1:But you know part of that incredible promise, of that verse, that you're going to live when you live in Christ and the Father, and you're going to know that Jesus is in His Father and you are in Him and he is in you. And so, no matter what your family's facing, no matter what you're going through in your life, god has promised, as a matter of fact and I'll just share one more verse with you, just that I have, because you're going to go to the head of the class because you guys can take it, but I want to be because I have another coaching group that I do here shortly but and he and I just want to share this promise and kind of tie this together, and we're going to pray tonight that fatherhood is one of the greatest gifts to us as men and you can put in your motherhood if you're a mom, it's one of the greatest gifts that we get. And God sent His Son, jesus, to make us sons and daughters and so that the way he fathers us—no matter if you had a good dad or not and 2 Corinthians 6.18 says and I'll be a father to you and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord, god Almighty, and the way he fathers you, as you're being fathered by him every day, that will begin to equip you to be more like his son and equip you at the same time to father or mother our sons and daughters, the same way that God fathers us. See, that's what the father difference is. That's what our ministry is about.
Speaker 1:When God, the Father, fathers you, you're going to be able to be really the mom and dad that your children need you to be, the mom and dad that your children need you to be, and we have a number of things that we want to help you with that. I'll just share some of these and I want to pray If you've not gotten my book the Difference a Father Makes. I'm just so honored to let you know that we're pretty much in every country in the entire world. We're even in more countries according to our download statistics, some that aren't even really considered all-the-way countries. And if you're just new to this channel, to this program, this is a gift for you that if you get past the first chapter without crying, you'll be the first, because it's a story of about how God took a boy me who lost his dad and struggled because he tried to name himself by all these things external in his life football, I mean, all those things and encountered the father in a way that reshaped me to be a father who makes a difference with my kids, and I am just so, so grateful. I can't even tell you how grateful I am.
Speaker 1:And also, if you're a gal, we have a series right now that we're running on Thursdays at 12 o'clock every week live show and we're continuing on this whole journey of learning to raise sons journey of learning to raise sons how to become a mom, maybe your single mom to raise sons that change the world. And maybe you don't have the husband. He's lost, maybe prematurely gone, and he's no longer on earth, or he's, you know, just left, he's, you know, just left. That is something, is a resource that's growing. Would love to have you there and ultimately, if you're interested, if you go to my website, I have a book that we're actually working through right now is the Father. You've Always Want, always wanted and would love for you to have that, but you got to buy this from our website or you can get the free download online. They've sold out on Amazon and, matter of fact, if you're interested in being a supporter, and maybe you can help us in the reprinting of this book, because we've, we're, we're down to the the last bones of this, but we got to reprint it so that we can keep getting it out to the all the countries that are reading this and, and really it's all about how does god heal our father wound and to turn us from wounds into beloved sons and daughters. It's a great book for gals. It's a great book for gals. It's a great book for study.
Speaker 1:We got a number of things, and so all that to say. I want to pray for you, be here every week and to be considered by you, to listen to you, hear me out and really catch something that God gave me. I didn't become a good father because I willed it, boy. I failed miserably for years and even trying to be a good husband, I needed to become a different kind of a man, and that's God's promise for you and for me, and I learned what it meant to be a son that he loved and maybe you're a daughter watching.
Speaker 1:Imagine having a father who is such an amazing part of your story that no matter if your dad's on earth or not and he's gone, maybe he was a great dad and he's no longer here and you miss being able to talk to him. That's what he's made you for, to be fathered by him too, and the way we receive that in our life is understanding that His whole goal and the fruit and the benefit of you being saved and born again and receiving Christ as Son into you, you get Christ in you, the hope of glory, which then unlocks the blessing of the Father for you and over your life. And when you have those two components, where you have, christes you and makes you the man or woman, the husband, the father, the stepmom, the stepdad, the single man, the single woman that he's ultimately, ultimately called you to be, so that you can make the most impact everywhere you go, and I got to tell you this is the best time of leading people to Christ I've ever seen. It happens to me almost every day, every time I see somebody new.
Speaker 1:People are hungry, people are scared, people are concerned, people are overly political, thinking that their answer and their protection will come from the government. Well, good candidates do offer some protection, but the ultimate protection that we need for our families is the supernatural, spiritual protection of the fatherhood of God on us, through us, in us, in his son, through the power of the Holy Spirit towards our kids. Power of the Holy Spirit towards our kids, equipping them to stand down the demons that are trying to own their life and regender them and manipulate them, and give them voices to stand up and not be afraid and be loving and kind and supernaturally powerful and wise to know the plan of the enemy that they can stand against. It's not what you want for your kids I do, but it starts with us as parents first. It's really hard to disciple your children when they're not seeing you live the life that you want them to live, and so God wants to do something in us, and the more we get that for ourselves, the more secure we become that God is a good, good father to our kids too. He's going to take care of them.
Speaker 1:So let's pray, father, I, just I thank you for my brothers that are here, the fathers that are here, the moms that are here, the gals that are here, the single moms that are here, the grandmas that are here, the grandpas that have tuned in tonight. Father them, lord, Reveal your fatherhood to them, the gift of you receiving your sonship or daughtership from God as your father, and the inheritance that Galatians 3 talks about. It makes us no longer a slave to anything, any broken thing or any demonic power in this world, but sets us free to be an heir to being in you. And I pray for my brothers and sisters, I pray for their families, I pray for their hearts, I pray for wisdom, I pray for relationship, I pray for those who say, ed, I want to go and sign up and be a part of what you're doing here at the Father Difference, lord, I pray that they'd follow through and we could work together and see what God wants to do. Thank you, father, for tonight. Thank you for all that you're going to do, thank you for all the men that we're going to meet later and coach them and get deep in becoming the best husband and father they can be, and all God's men and women said Amen, amen, welcome.
Speaker 1:I love your comments. You can email me. I have a link here somewhere for an email address. My faithful assistant is not around, but if you go to my website, which is thefatherdifferencecom, that's another deal there. Let me see, let me find there's a banner here. So, oh, here we go. Anyway, you can go to my website right here.
Speaker 1:We have a coaching program on our website. If you go to that link the Father Difference Coaching Program and you want some extra coaching, I'd love to help you. We give you a free 15-minute appointment and we deal with something. We see if it's a good fit, if it's a good fit for you and you'd like me to work with you and help you, we have a whole program that will really benefit you. It's all donation-based. Your donations enable us to do what we need to do and, as you you know, come to the end of the year and everything or maybe you're looking for a place to sow your wealth in that's really going to change.
Speaker 1:I want you to consider to be a partner and donate to our ministry. You click that link right there. It'll take you to our website. You can donate monthly. I'd love to have you as a partner every month, or maybe you're in a place to really help us fund the launch of the Fatherhood Academy. That's a brand new thing that we are building to help men, and there's a whole section for women to come in, because part of the Fatherhood Academy is also for gals to be fathered by God the gift of fatherhood. He promises to be a father in our life so that we can be the husbands and fathers, the moms and the wives, the single men, the single women that he's called us to be. So, if you're interested, I just want to encourage you to sign up and we'll get rid of that.
Speaker 1:And thank you for, uh, just uh, tuning in tonight and I have a something on my screen that I can't figure out how to get rid of. Oh, it's got to be one of these. Come on, help me find the banner that. No, that's not it. Well, anyway, uh, thanks so much for being here with us, and if you need to email me, you can get a hold of me at Ed Tanney.
Speaker 1:Blessing of the Father, I am so grateful to be with you. Lord bless you. Have a wonderful night, keep it coming. Thank you, jordy. Mr Valdez, ellen, jill, Vinette, dave Valero, jacques, bless you, jacques, one of my French brother names. I can tell I'm actually a Frenchman myself, and so I'm just there we go. I just figured it out. Even a football player can not only snap the ball, but he can figure out this stuff. So, thank you, it's great to be with you tonight. If you have any questions, you can email me, connect with me. The Lord bless you. My friends, we will talk to you soon. Remember, it's never too late for you to be the husband and father, the wife, the mom that God's called you to be. God bless you.
