Healing Family Wounds: When Your Child Cancels You

The cancel culture phenomenon has infiltrated family relationships, with many parents experiencing the pain of being "ghosted" by their own children. This growing issue stems from an inability to navigate forgiveness and reconciliation, leaving families fractured and relationships broken.

• Most couples in troubled relationships don't know how to forgive one another
• When children "cancel" parents, they often believe something false about themselves and their parents
• Asking "Is there something I've done that hurt you?" creates space for healing
• Proverbs 17:9 shows that "love prospers when a fault is forgiven"
• Forgiveness requires specificity—saying "forgive me for what" rather than generic apologies
• The story of Tom and his son John demonstrates how God can heal relationships before it's too late
• A father reconciled with his daughter after 17 years by asking how he had hurt her
• The prodigal son story is really about the father waiting on the porch, ready to restore the relationship
• Building a culture of forgiveness in your family safeguards future generations
• Be quick to repent to God first, then model forgiveness to your children
• Ask questions rather than preach sermons to your children
• Don't give up on estranged children—they need you in their story

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Chapters

• 0:00 When Your Child Cancels You
• 6:16 The Power of Forgiveness in Relationships
• 15:28 The Story of Tom and John
• 22:12 Pursuing Reconciliation With Your Children
• 31:02 Building a Culture of Forgiveness
• 43:56 Introducing The Fatherhood Academy

Transcript

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What kind of father do you want to be? What kind of man do you want to become for your family and for yourself? If you've ever wondered how to step into the fullness of your role as a father, husband, and man of God, then you're in the right place. Here at the Father Difference, our mission is to inspire and equip men to be the best fathers they can be. It's a powerful mission. And today, we're going to explore exactly how you can take steps toward that calling. Whether you're a father, a son, a husband, grandfather, single dad, stepfather, or just looking to grow, I believe God has something powerful for you in today's message. Whether you're tuning in live or watching this later, we are so excited to have you here. If this is what you're looking for, then subscribe so you can tune in each week to the Father Difference Live. You can sign up below. And now your host, a husband, father, grandfather, author, and former NFL player, Pastor Ed McGlass.

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Welcome, Emmett. Love you so much. Great football player from Youngstown State University, the fighting penguins. And just excited about all you that are coming, watching tonight. We're going to talk about one of those things that is happening more than I can't even believe how much this is happening in our culture right now. But it there is this what do you do when your child can't cancels you? We have this it it's it's it's deafening and incredibly painful when your child sideways and he chooses not to talk to you. When he just goes sideways and he's cut off communications, some of my best friends, I won't mention them, they're uh they haven't, they don't get to see their grandchildren. It's like this bitter, bitter cancer culture, cancel culture is is taking over families. And tonight I'm gonna talk about how to break the power of bitterness around your life, in your relationships, with your kids, with your relatives, because right now, the the only healing for people in relationships, it's it's actually the number one issue in my coaching. I I do personal uh one-on-one coaching and family coaching is I have yet to meet a couple that's in trouble that knows how to forgive one another. They know how to build a wall, they know how to build a catapult, they know how to shoot bombs over the wall, they know how to be angry, they know how to withhold themselves. And all through our country, we have uh families that have been disintegrating because love isn't being transferred, blessing isn't being transferred because the the tools of of forgiveness that God has given to us, we just we just get sideways. And next thing you know, our our kids haven't spoken to us for years. I mean, I met a a man a couple of years ago who ended up reading my book, The Difference a Father Makes, and he calls me on the phone and says, I'm getting ready to have my 90th birthday. And I read your article in Epic Times and about the power of forgiveness, and my son and I live in the same town, but we haven't talked for 30 years, and he says, and I don't want to die, I don't want to die, and so have me and my son separated. He won't even talk to me. What do I do? And then he told me that the son actually works for the dad who owns the company. How does that work? Well, bitterness was at play, and as a result of of that conversation, I'm gonna share with you what I told him a bit later on, but I'm gonna tell you what I told him. I said, I want you to, I want you to go take your son out for lunch. He's gonna think that they're gonna you're gonna talk about business, but I want you to propose a question to him that really puts the shoe on the other foot with with bitterness. Because what happens when someone gets bitter or when your children are trying to cancel you out of their life, they're believing things that are not true about you. I mean, we'll say amen, put that in a comment. They they cancel you, they're angry at you, they're pushing you away. And and so what you gotta do is you gotta you gotta connect with them and enter their world so that they get an opportunity, like they can feel like they can share their true feelings and their anger with you, so that we deal with it. And I'm gonna tell you, this this has nothing to do with if somebody's in a church or not. Because most of the people that we coach and counsel are in churches. And families and pastors' families and church families are separated. They said in the opposite side. You know, it this is an issue that if the devil can win in bitterness in your family, then he gets your grandkids one day who are gonna turn out and be bitter and angry. And you might even be canceled. So, how do we deal with this? So that's what we're gonna talk about today. And so let's let's get right into it. And if you got a question along the way of something that you're listening to, I would love to hear from you. All you gotta do is put it in the comments. I won't mention your name unless you want me to, but whatever those questions are, because I know it's a personal thing, and it's and it's really hard many times for us to talk about these things because they're so painful. And so here's the first thing that I want you to look at. I love this scripture. And in in Proverbs 17, verse 9, it says that love prospers when a fault is forgiven. Boy, is that not true. Every had a relationship with a friend or somebody that you love, and you're you're not speaking, but then you forgive one another, how quickly that returns. I've I've I've learned that with my wife. That you know, love doesn't prosper when there's hurt and you don't deal with it. Well, let me let me tell you how yours truly learned this lesson. Now, I did not come with equipment on asking for forgiveness. My in my family, it was pretty much I'm sorry, or you know, I didn't mean it, passive aggressive kind of stuff. So we didn't have any way to really get healing in our relationships. And there was just a lot of pain that happened, a lot of love and a lot of pain. And I remember taking my wife out to a beautiful dinner. Now, I'm telling you guys, if you're married, do not do what I'm about to tell you. And so we're at the a beautiful restaurant, Feng Lum's restaurant in Universal City in LA. And you get out of the car. I'm holding my wife's hand, and I had planned a romantic dinner at a restaurant called Feng Lum's Restaurant. It's a great Chinese restaurant. On the very top, there's a little tram that goes up. You've ever been there, and there's a restaurant on top, beautiful view. Can't get more romantic than this. So I'm walking towards the library, towards the lobby, holding your hand, trying to be a gentleman, young in our marriage, and it had one of those revolving doors. You know the ones that go around. Well, when I was a kid, we would play this game to where we'd run in there and push it faster and run around, and if it hit you, you lose a point. And so me and my brothers and sisters would get on those things and push it, and there was always somebody who's getting knocked around. And for just a minute, I kind of had one of those little flashbacks, and there I was, and boom, I pushed the door, dropped Jill's hand. She tries to follow me in a cubicle, she misses a cubicle, she gets into one behind me, I push it faster. It comes around so quickly, it smacks her in her booty and launches her into the lobby. I come around and went, yeah. Oh my goodness. Man, I I was in trouble. And I looked at her, and what did I say? I didn't say, Would you forgive me? I looked at her and said, babe, you gotta be a little quicker. I know that was like the dumbest thing you could possibly say. And so we get in, we go up, and it was a it was a somber night. And all I said was, I'm sorry, you know I didn't mean it. And I thought that was enough. And my family, if you do something wrong, you just say, sorry. So we had our dinner, we come down, and we're in the car, my wife's really quiet. And I and I said, Are you okay? She goes, I'm not. You come you completely humiliated me and devastated me in front of all those people in the lobby. And I said, I'm really sorry. I shouldn't have done that. No, that's not that's not asking for forgiveness. And I said, Okay, you have to ask me for forgiveness for what you did. So I said, Okay, will you forgive me? And my wife says, for what? Because forgiveness, if it's not connected to for what, is blanket, you know, forgive me for everything I've ever done. You've ever tried that one? Well, that doesn't work. That's like a surgeon opening your heart up on surgery and pulling out parts until he finds what he's working on. Forgiveness works when you say, forgive me. The only person who can forgive us from all of our sins and cleanse us from all our righteousness is Jesus Christ Himself. But in human relationships, when you bring in and you confess the hurt that they've shared with you that you did, and you say, Will you forgive me for what I did? So I I took her cue and said, Would you forgive me for not being a gentleman and humiliating you and embarrassing you in front of all those people? I'll never do that again. And my wife paused. I think this is like wife 101. And she paused for a minute, and then she says, I forgive you. And all of a sudden, the air between us that was really thick and painful changed. Because forgiveness is about if we're gonna deal with this cancer culture, the the reason why there's canceling happening is there's hurt, there's misunderstanding. And when you don't heal or hurt, it can turn into bitterness to where they then begin looking at you or say you're bitter towards someone else, and you begin looking at them for reasons why they are unsafe to have a relationship with. And how quickly people have taken a very healthy thing in boundaries. Because I know that Henry Cloud and John Townsend never met boundaries, an incredible book in what they do, is that you just create boundaries on toxic people in your life, and you don't ever have a moment where you're ever being challenged because people make you feel bad. That's not what they're talking about. And what's happening in our culture today is cancer culture because forgiveness is not the model. Will you forgive me? Imagine what would happen if some of these elected officials that are in front of people all the time dealt with their own bitterness with the opposite party and publicly asked for forgiveness for the way they've treated that person. And when that happens, it's rarefied air. Imagine now, even deeper and more profound, when you, Dad, learned to ask for forgiveness from your children to help them have a model on how they can ask for forgiveness too when they blow it. Because, see, the way we deal with forgiveness with our children is the model that they first learn how to deal with bitterness. And if it's swept under the carpet, or if it's just not ever talked about, or you just say, listen, you know, everything's on, it's just it's just a you know, water under a bridge. What the heck does that mean? Instead of really dealing with it. And so the Bible is really clear about this. And I thought I'd share just a story I wrote in my book. If you've not gotten this book, you can go to our website. Actually, it's it's sold out on Amazon, but you can get a digital version of this copy. Or you go to our website, we have plenty, at thefatherdifference.com. And I want to share with you a story that is absolutely one of my favorite stories of a dad who learned to heal his relationship with his son. So let's let's go there. And so, you know, we were celebrating our anniversary in Hawaii, and I had this conversation with this guy named Tom. And two weeks before Hurricane Katrina, his son John, to tell me this story, made uh his regular phone call to call his mother. And what was unusual was that John asked for dad. And he never had many words for his dad. That night, as Tom heard the phone ring, he entered and started walking towards his wife and and gave her the phone. That's when he heard, hey dad, can we talk? And uh Tom, you know, as he's telling this story, he starts crying. Began to tears begin to form in his eyes as they talked about how hard his own father had been on him as a boy. He confessed to me that he had made the mistake as a father, and he was responsible for some of the distance between him and his son John. That's a typical scenario these days. And then Tom gets to the heart of the story. He tells, as he as he holds the phone to his ear, he heard his son say, and can you imagine this? He said, Dad, I don't want to talk to mom right now, I want to talk to you. And before Tom could think or say anything, there came a chilling question. Dad, are you ready to bury me? Dad, if if something happened to me, would you be ready to bury me? Dad, I feel like the Lord has shown me that I'm not gonna live for very long. Tom, the dad's fingers tightened on the phone as his son continued. I wanted to call and tell you that I love you and I want a relationship to be healed. That's the prodigal coming home. The end of the conversation, time asked a final question. John, if I'm gonna get ready to bury you, can I ask you about your relationship with Jesus? John's son replied right away, Dad, I recently gave my life back to the Lord, and you won't have to worry about me when I'm gone. Do you have kids like that, family like that, relatives like that? You're just kind of stuck in a moment. It goes on. Tom knew at that moment that all of his deepest prayers had been answered. And after lying dormant for so long and and had hope had suddenly bloomed. That's why he was able to say what came next. Son, I am ready to bury you. Two weeks after the conversation, my son was telling Jill and I this on our way home when Katrina struck, Hurricane Katrina, and a large tree was uprooted. Uh and here he paused and took a deep breath. It fell on my son John's car and he was killed instantly. Can you imagine that? In silence it followed John and said something I will never forget. God knew that something deep inside of me and my son needed to be healed before he took him home to heaven. Well, how about you? What is who is in your life that right now you need to be reconciled with? Who is in your life where you can you can bring the gift of mercy that you received from God when you ask for forgiveness from him to your relationships? And how do you put that in place? Well, here's here's a a great scripture to think about in the message. Be even-tempered, content with second place. Oh man, I don't like that one. How about you, Emmett? You want to be in second place? I I don't think so. Well, we've trained all our life to win as an athlete, and you know, even in relationships where we stop hearing one another because we're competing to be right. But the scripture says here, you know, content with second place, quick to forgive. Let me ask you this what would it be worth it, would it be worth it to you to feel like you're in second place with a child that's totally lost and comes home because of the way you treated him? Of course it is. It's a no-brainer. Quick to forgive an offense. Quick to forgive an offense. How long do you hold on to something before you forgive? A minute, a second, a week, a month, a year? I wish I I didn't have to say what I'm about to say. But I I I deal with people every single week in our coaching. And we're that little book, The Difference of Father Makes, is in 230 some countries. And every single coaching session is almost exactly the same with the way it starts. And it's about bitterness just between somebody and the family, and how they were modeled bitterness or anger or abuse from their parents. And now they have children, and they just they get sideways so easily. And so, you know, part of that is understanding that. Yes, and and John, I I will I'll talk about that before we're done about how to uh deal with uh a daughter that is goes to the father. So we'll we'll get to that. And so he goes on, quick to forgive. Forgive as quickly, and here's the here's the standard. Forgive as quickly and completely as the master forgave you. So important. Because part of what happens is we our model of forgiveness is not quickly and completely like Jesus forgave us. Our model is I'll forgive you at the moment I am convinced that you will never do this again. Well, the Bible doesn't say that. What if God Himself said that to you and I? He said, you know, I'd forgive you, but you keep doing it over and over again. So I'm not forgiving you, and your life's gonna be miserable until you never do that sin again. That's impossible. We're gonna do that because we're flawed, and we'll make it about ourselves. And and the truth of the matter is that you gotta you gotta learn to quickly forgive. And the way you do that, and we'll get at this again, you've got to be quick to going to God when you sin. What's the time between when you blow it and when you go to the Lord and say, Father, forgive me? The quicker you get to him, the qu the quicker you learn how to forgive other people. Because who can compare to all the times that we've sinned against God? Nobody does that much. So it goes on, and completely as the master has forgiven you. Now, I love this verse in James because it talks about the home, and then we're going to tie this all together. And it's talking about God's wisdom. Imagine Jesus sharing this in front of a bunch of Pharisees and people who, you know, they, you know, they make their wisdom about their superiority, about their religion, about their study and all those things. But wisdom from God is above, from above is first pure. When God speaks to you about your your children or about somebody in your life, it's pure, it's it's peaceable. You know, it it's it's we don't rule over people and demand that they because when I'm demanding something from my children, many times I'm demanding something that I'm I myself am not doing. Have you ever tried to get the sin out of your children's life the same way you have blown the same weaknesses that you have, and you're doing it under the guise of protecting them? Oh, did it too many times. Gentle. Within this gentle, when when somebody, you know, one of your kids fails, how do you how do you deal with them? Many times, kids that you know pushes back, you you ask yourself the question, where have I been pushing them? Where have I been gentle with my children? Because I get stuck, like we all do as men. We get stuck in relationships because we feel like we're right and they're wrong. And the perfect picture about how to get a daughter back or son back that's ghosting you or is living a crazy life is the is the picture of the prodigal son. And it's not the story, it's not about the prodigal son, the story is about the father sitting on the porch waiting for the son to return, fattening up the pig for the banquet, ready in a moment's notice before they even repent. And that story that I love so much in the Gospels of the Prodigal Son, when the father saw him a long way off, he was just turning towards home a little bit. And the son actually took his inheritance, said to his father, I wish you were dead, I want my money so I can go and do what I want to. And he took his inheritance, spent it, lost it, was starving. And the Bible said he came to his senses and said to himself, At least the slaves that work in my father's house are getting three meals a day. He was eating what was left over of the pig pot. And so he turned towards home. And he wasn't cleaned up, he wasn't perfectly repentant. But what was shocking was to see his father running towards him to restore him, throwing a banquet, carrying a new robe, bringing him the family ring, and restoring his inheritance. I love that story. Because part of the the secret of opening up that door with a child that is ghosting you is to find out what you did to hurt her to the dad is talking. What happened? Sometimes it's just the the wickedness of the devil grabs our kids, they get in the wrong stuff and they get sideways. But the conversation that begins the healing process, and I shared a little bit in the beginning of this, is this question that was really powerful for me and my own children and my own family. And that was honestly, is there something that I have done as your dad that hurt you? Can you tell me what it is so I can ask for forgiveness? I shared that with a man that came towards our ministry who read my book, The Difference of Father Makes, and he called me and told me that he it's it's been uh 17 years since he's seen his daughter. And he was he said, Is there anything I is there anything I can do? I I don't know that I was a very good dad. I missed a lot of things. And every letter I write comes back from my ex-wife that were dead to you. So in a real way, he was ghosted by the the wife and the daughter. And say, let me say this to you that when your children are ghosting you or they've cut you off, there's something that you carry as a father that they desperately need in their life. They don't even know it and realize it. But when you don't pursue them and find out what's going on with them, It it builds a bigger case in their mind that you don't actually love them at all. Or you would never receive them back home when they're broken. And when you when you know, thank you, Justin. Justin uh who's watching did this with his kids, and and John, you write, you know, over a period of years we've tried to have conversations about how I hurt her, but I've never received an answer. She's 38 and uh successful professional. I struggle uh to think that she would ever want to come home. It hurts. And let me tell you, and let me tell you why she's gonna come home. And here's a promise for you is because you carry something in you as a father that she needs to fully live the life she has. You'll never not be her dad. And so you keep pursuing, you keep asking questions in a way. And this guy who uh I gave this question to his daughter, after 17 years, gets he writes a letter, and we're gonna pray that you write another letter, John, and she's gonna read this one, or an email, or somehow to get to her, and he sends this letter out, and he didn't think it was gonna work because he sent many letters and we prayed over it, and he got a phone call a week later. Dad, is this you? I have a question I want to ask you. Can we can we meet somewhere in Cincinnati? He lived in Texas, and he flew up to Cincinnati, got early to the restaurant, and waited for the daughter he has not seen in 17 years. Can you imagine? 17 years, he didn't know what she looked like. She was just a little girl, and uh I just love this story, and all of a sudden this girl walks in and sees her dad with tears in her eyes, and she walks over, and a little abruptly she goes, Was I that ugly? And he goes, What are you talking about? He says, Dad, you didn't hold me, you didn't show me much affection, and I just figured out that you divorced mom because I was too ugly to love. Because see, in every one of your kids that's separated from you, they believe something that's false about you and about them. That's where the devil worked. The devil works with lies, he can't work when the light of the Lord's there. And he the father looks at his daughter and says, Will you forgive me? I am so sorry, I was so broken. You probably don't know this, but your mom divorced me because back in those days I had an addiction to pornography, and uh I was afraid it might ruin you, so I stayed away. Would you forgive me? And she leaped across the table, hugged her dad after all these years, and just sobbing, Daddy, Daddy, I've waited for you. Your daughter's waiting for you. And you know, she loves you or she wouldn't ghost you. She needs you to be in her story. And then this daughter says, Will you follow me home? I have a present for you. I've been waiting to give you. So he follows her home and she pulls around the back, goes in the back door, he walks up the gravel gravel driveway, goes to the front porch, there's a screen door, and he hears through the door. He's here. He's here. And three grandchildren that he did not know about were screaming, Papa, running to the door. And God gave him his kids back. See, that's what the power of forgiveness is. And it was just a question inspired by the Holy Spirit and a dad, where you you pursue until they tell you where they're hurt. Because, see, they don't believe sometimes our children they believe like we do. When somebody hurts us, don't we get into this place where they should know better than that? You ever had somebody who is hurt you and you just feel like, well, they should know better. It's kind of like in the early days of our marriage, when my wife would hurt me, I would say, well, why my wife should know better than that. They don't know better than that. I gotta tell her. I had she had to teach me about forgiveness. And when we when we do that in our life, it's it's a profound thing that happens when you learn to ask these questions to open up. And I just want to say to you, dads out there or moms that are watching, don't ever get up. Don't ever give up. Hey, Judy, I love you. You don't give up on your kids because they need you. They need you in their story, they want you in their story, but because many times they don't have the tools to know how to deal with it with the bitterness that happens in a family, they just think I'm just gonna separate. And they somebody somebody gives them this Kool-Aid that they need to cancel you because you're not a safe place. I'm sorry, that's just bull hockey. There's times when people are abusive, but I I find that most of the time when we have the these family things, it's not necessarily about abuse at all. It's about not understanding. And sometimes as men, we're dumber than the stump, and we don't pick up when we're hurting our kids. I I tell you, my wife has helped me so much to connect with the emotional lives of my sons and my daughters. It's been so valuable to me. And so, you know, you you hang in there, John, because we're gonna pray, and we're gonna pray for all of those that are watching, and maybe have a kid that's sideways, and we're gonna do something that that I really believe and feel led to do tonight is I want you to write another letter. And in this letter, I want you to say, because this isn't about you saying, I missed you, why don't you call me, etc. This is a letter that says, help me understand how much I hurt you so that I can ask for forgiveness. Dad. And just wait, put your number, Father. I pray right now in the name of Jesus. I pray for John and his daughter, I pray for everyone who's watching, every kid that's watching right now. That uh Lord, you would give them the courage to not quit and there's and and not quit and pursue their children until you break through in their stories, Lord. I pray that you would begin to heal families. I pray, Lord, where this cancer culture has slipped in to families between fathers and daughters and fathers and sons and mothers and fathers against one another and and cousins and father, I pray you would heal all those things. Heal all those things, Father. In the name of Jesus, I pray, Lord, that even before the end of the year, just in the next two and a half weeks, John would get a phone call from his daughter. I pray, Lord, that you would break through and she would talk to her dad. In Jesus' name. And I pray, Lord, that you would give John the grace and every dad that's watching the grace to stay and listen and learn and own it and just ask for forgiveness. Bring healing to every family that's watching and break the power of this cancel culture in the name of Jesus. And all Gus people said what? Amen. I have some more notes, but I think we're gonna just I gave you a nugget. And let me just uh just share one more scripture with you. And let me just move forward here. Uh just here, just a couple of just little things, just kind of takeaways. Just takeaways. Just number one, be quick to repent to God first by asking for forgiveness. Here's the deal: we got to bring our stuff to God. And to be and then be good at modeling forgiveness to your children. First, you have to receive God's mercy for yourself, then you got it. Second thing you do is build a culture of forgiveness in your family, beloved, by never letting bitterness go to bed or or grab your own heart, right? And that's just that question. Help me understand how I hurt you so that I can ask for forgiveness. You know, number three, ask the Father to show you what he's doing with your children. Boy, this has been so helpful to me, this question. Because when I'm partnering with God over what God is already doing with my kids, I quit preaching at them. They don't, by the way, they know all the rules, they just don't believe in your rules. We got to get them to believe in the one that God is speaking to them. And so be you know, quick to love, slow to preach, right? It's not about the rules. And and uh number four, uh learn to ask good questions, not preach a great sermon. See, questions will help you determine your next step with your children. Help me understand how I hurt you. I did that. That must have really disdevastated you. Can I would you let me ask for forgiveness? Okay, will you forgive me? Stay in that place. That's a powerful place for you and for me. And the more we do that, the more impact we're gonna have with our kids. I write about it quite a bit in in our ministry, and kind of what we're doing. But when you build a culture of forgiveness, you will safeguard your grandchildren one day in dealing with a crazy bitter world. We've we've been in a really bitter time in our country in America, and those of you that are outside this country, there's a lot of bitterness, there's a lot of stuff going back and forth. But guess what? Let let the people of God go first. The people of Jesus. We've received so much. Why not reconcile today? Father, I thank you for my friends. I thank you for them showing up and giving time tonight. I pray that you would heal their families. Heal their families. Heal these dads, heal these moms, heal their families. And Lord, I pray you you you I believe you spoke to me for this next year in 2025, and it's gonna be a year of grace, grace in your business, in your life, in your family, in your relationships. And Father, I pray that you would bring your grace upon these families and heal them and use them as a model in their neighborhood, Lord, that bitterness doesn't get through the front door. So, Father, thank you for these families. Thank you for these dads. I'm so grateful that you're with me tonight and you're following me. And this ministry's blessed you uh in any way. We're gonna run just, I'm gonna share something with you, just kind of in closing. I think uh I see is gonna play it for you, and then I'll come back on after it's something I want to communicate with you as you think about this year.

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So roll that uh Icy if you're dear friends. Imagine a world where every father feels equipped to lead with faith, love, and purpose. A world where families thrive and communities grow stronger because of devoted, Christ-centered fathers.

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You know, beloved, that is the vision that God's put in my heart for every single family. You know, he is on the move, I believe. He promises in Malachi that before the great and coming day of the Lord, he's gonna do something profound. He's gonna turn the hearts of fathers back towards their children. So the hearts of their children will turn back to their father. That's what God is doing. I mean dads daily who want to learn to be better fathers. Yet many have never been shown how. Too many families are being fractured through bitterness, and with parents and grandparents even being canceled. That's why we're launching an online community to quit men to be the fathers that God has called them to be. It's more than a program, it's a part of a movement that God is already doing to reshape fatherhood. It's a sacred calling rooted in the teachings of pride. And we're calling this the Fatherhood Academy, where men will embark on a journey of healing and spiritual restoration that helps them transform their family relationship. And to make this vision a reality, would you consider partnering with us financially as we continue to reach and disciple every man, dad, and grandpa that comes our way? Your donation will help create a ripple across the neighborhoods, communities, you know, and ultimately our nation, anchoring each child. Here's a vision in the unwavering love and guidance of a devoted dad. Your end-of-the-year gift right now, whether it's a one-time donation or an ongoing pledge monthly, will make a huge difference. Together, we can equip fathers to build hope-built futures for their children and their grandchildren. Remember, my friend, the father loves you. And he sent his son to let you know. Pray it for you, Pastor Ed.

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Click the link to donate today. Thank you for believing in this mission and joining us on this transformative journey.

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Oh, thank you guys for watching that. And uh, that's my heart. That's what God's called me to. And the address for our academy is thefatherhood.academy. And God allowed us to reserve that one. And that's gonna be our training ground. We're gonna have gals in there involved as well, podcasts, a lot of resources for you to equip you as a dad to be the best father you can possibly be. And and like a training camp, like an academy that you go to to learn to be a soldier. This one's just gonna teach you how to be a better dad. And without with all with all that we have to help you. That's my vision. That's what we're for. And it would mean a lot if you go to our website at thefatherdifference.com and and donate. You can go right there and hit the donate or give button at the top. Uh, that would mean a lot. If you became a monthly partner, maybe you're in a place where you'd like to really help us. That would be awesome. Large or small, that would be a blessing. All that to say, I'm getting ready to go. And just to let you know that next Tuesday, we're not going to be meeting because I'm expecting you, you're going to be at a Christmas Eve service somewhere with your kids and your grannies if you've got grandkids. So, Lord, may the Lord give you an incredible Christmas in the name of Jesus. Thank you for being with me. We'll be back here in two weeks and looking forward to that show as well. And we'll just continue on this deal. And don't forget, if you're a gal, the difference a mother makes, go live is this Thursday at 12 o'clock. Be the last one before Christmas. And we're gonna deal with problem kids and forgiveness, and really learning how to completely forgive your husband. Yeah, absolutely. Lord bless you guys. I'm so grateful you hung with me this whole time. I'm praying for you. Email me if you got prayer requests. Thank you so much for all your comments. I'm praying, praying from you for you, John, and all those that need to be reconciled with your children. God is good. And uh, thank you for your comments as well. Your daughter's gonna come home. Your daughter's gonna come home. That's just the way it is. Because she needs her daddy, Father. Amen. All right, bless you. Gotta go. Getting ready to go preach to another group. You gotta get in the car. So the Lord bless you, and so great to be with you tonight. And he said, Tame McLasson, it's never too late for God to do a great work in you so he can use you in a powerful way in the life of your children. And all God's men and women said, Amen. God bless you. Thanks for giving, and appreciate whatever you can do to help us launch this academy. God bless you.