Recapturing Your Teen’s Heart

We explore how to father teenagers without provoking anger, shifting from control to connection through questions, presence, and prayer. We share stories, Scripture, and practical tools to help you keep your teen’s heart and model a lived faith they can follow.

• The mission is to equip men to lead families with faith and courage
• Why it's best to move from top‑down authority to adult‑to‑adult conversations
• Training or leading by example: The sermon they see beats the one they hear
• How to pursue your estranged kids with persistence and forgiveness

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Chapters

• 0:00 Framing The Call Of Fatherhood
• 1:17 Meet Pastor Ed & Movement Context
• 3:00 Mission: Make Fathers Great Again
• 3:25 Main Focus: Fathering Teenagers
• 6:40 Seasons Change, Tools Must Too
• 9:20 Ephesians 6:4 Without Provoking
• 12:05 Authority Vs Permission-Based Parenting
• 15:10 Ask Great Questions, Win Hearts
• 18:20 Understanding The Why Before Discipline
• 21:05 Live The Sermon They Can See
• 24:00 Training By Example, Not Control
• 27:00 Presence, Listening, And Interests
• 30:30 Pursue Them, Don’t Quit Calling
• 33:20 Believe They Hear God Too
• 36:00 Forgive First, Go First
• 38:10 Teach From Your Weakness
• 41:00 Create Safe Rooms For Honesty
• 44:10 Celebrate Their Own Revelation
• 47:00 Brotherhood, Confession, And Strength
• 50:00 Share Prayer Life And Wins
• 53:00 A Bronco And A Bold Prayer

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:01

What kind of father do you want to be? What kind of man do you want to become for your family and for yourself? If you've ever wondered how to step into the fullness of your role as a father, husband, and man of God, then you're in the right place. Here at the Father Difference, our mission is to inspire and equip men to be the best fathers they can be. It's a powerful mission. And today, we're going to explore exactly how you can take steps toward that calling. Whether you're a father, a son, a husband, grandfather, single dad, stepfather, or just looking to grow, I believe God has something powerful for you in today's message. Whether you're tuning in live or watching this later, we are so excited to have you here. If this is what you're looking for, then subscribe so you can tune in each week to the Father Difference Live. You can sign up below. And now your host, a husband, father, grandfather, author, and former NFL player, Pastor Ed McGlass.

SPEAKER_01: 1:17

Good to see you again here from the Tandy Studios here in Southern California and the Father Difference. And which is Father Difference Live tonight. Excited about connecting with you. Welcome, my friend. 100X Life Movement. Powerful men's movement that a number of guys in our Bible study on Thursday just gone through. A great uh time to reboot. New year, a lot of things. I am sporting two things. Number one, my hat make fathers great again. And the funny thing about this is was wearing this the other day, and somebody assumed it was just a Trump hat and started uh cussing me out and flipping me off as I'm walking my grandkids across the road at the circle of orange. And I and I boun I looked down and you know, didn't know if this guy wanted to fight me or not. And if he would have got out of the car, I would have, I would, I would have, I don't know what I would have done. Well, anyway, he wouldn't have hurt my grandkids. And so I looked at him and I said, Man, can you read? And he sees the hat and he goes, Oh man, I am so sorry. I said, You know, they get a pill for your syndrome there. I think, you know, you can deal with it. Election's over. You're, I guess your guy didn't win, or Gal didn't win. And and and I'm not celebrating his win as much as I'm celebrating what I think God wants to do. Because is there anything more powerful for you as a man and a father than your children doing well, especially in the culture that we have right now? Welcome Instagram, Rumble, TikTok, X, uh, just uh, you know, uh Facebook, private page, and public page. Welcome to all of you who have joined me again. And tonight we're gonna talk about just this a few pointers on really how to recapture a teenager's heart, especially you know, when they're not following you. And how do you you father a teenager God's way? Now, I'd love your comments if you want to throw those in on one of your platforms. I'm only able to see those on a few. Can't write, uh, can't really see the rumble comments right now or questions that you might have, but you can post those and uh would love to see those. So tonight we're gonna talk about how to father teenagers. Now, how many of you aren't as good of a father with teenage sons and teenage daughters as you were when they were just like little? I got the babysit my one of my youngest granddaughters, Gigi, Edward's daughter, went over and hung out with her on Monday, and she is just precious. And it's it's about it's pretty simple feeding, bottles, nap time, playing with Barbies. Pretty simple, you know, thing. Just having a great time with her. And yet, you had about 13 years on Gigi, she's probably gonna have those looks towards my son Edward that he's gonna call me up and go, Dad, what do I do? And you know, that and it happens is as fathers, we go through these developmental cycles where the tools that we have when our children are little are not the same ones we need to use when they get older. In the beginning, we want to just, you know, take care of our daughters so that they're not so mad at us and and keep saving the life of our sons, which end up breaking stuff or themselves, and et cetera. You just you just never know with kids the things you're gonna have. But I'm gonna share a couple of things tonight from the Bible, from scripture, and things I've learned in my own life that really helped me stay connected with my children and be and really be the father they needed me to be. Because the secret of being a father is basically you're staying in the game. You're not checking out and going, I'm out of here. And because part of the whole process of learning to be a great dad is learning how to be fathered by God yourself. And the more you're fathered by God yourself, the way Jesus was, the more impact you're gonna have as a man, husband, father. Maybe you're unmarried now as an ex and how to take care of your kids, or you're fathering uh kids that aren't your birth children, but they're part of the marriage to the new gal, or you're a mentor, or my favorite group, you're a grandpa. And you're you're fathering those kids and grandkids, and you want to learn some new things. Well, tonight we're gonna talk about that. So here we go. So, first slide I want to share with you is a scripture that right out of Ephesians, which is is one of those, is one of the hardest things for us to navigate because as we're fathering our teenage sons and daughters, or this applies to to older children as well, is it's really easy to break this scripture when Paul says, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bringing them up in the discipline and the dis instruction of the Lord. And how easy it is for us to be provoked to anger when they stop listening to us, or they're doing dumb stuff, right? That they end up, you know, breaking those rules, or my mother used to say this, and my stepdad used to as well. Son, you're on my last nerve. Because they knew that whatever followed that moment, if I broke another rule, was you know, in our house, his own words, there's gonna be hell to pay. And so we understood what that all meant. But when you're fathering, you know, older kids, teenage kids or teenagers, or those who are out of your house now, we have to learn that fathering is all about fathering them with permission. And what I mean by that is that when they're little, you can you basically get away with a lot more latitude. This is my house, here are the rules, and you're gonna live this way. But as they begin to form this, their their core identity about who God's called them to be as a young man or a young woman, if we use that style with our children when they're older, what do they do? They sometimes they make gestures towards us that we would rather not see. And they resist us, which makes us angry, which causes us to get anger, we get provoked, and we end up you know teaching them the way we do our young kids. You ever made that mistake? Let me know about it. I'd uh send me a text uh or in the chat back to me. And part of that is that when you understand that the key to being a great dad during this time, because if they're gonna hear the second half of this verse here, you you gotta you it says, do not provoke your children to anger. And so part of that is learning how to keep their heart. And one of the things that I've learned over and over again, it's a powerful truth that's helped me more than anything with my kids as they're older. Even now, my grown uh kids who have their own families, is that I can't do kind of top-down leadership style where I'm like the CEO of the family and they got to listen to me, right? Because I, you know, I have the the money or I have the position or the title. And when you do that, you sort of it turns into what you know, sociologists would would call the parent-child conflict, where you have somebody with the power as a parent speaking down to a child that's your underling. And so you assert your authority and you say things that to try to assume that authority is going to get them to mind. But if they don't make that decision for themselves as a teenager, and I've seen this in churches where you're, you know, we'll have these kids that are raised in church and in Sunday school, and parents will come to me and say, Ed, I don't know what happened. I mean, they were the best kid. I said, Well, you know, when children are being raised, they've they learn how to obey the rules that you have in front of you. But when they're when they're away from you and with their friends, they live out of what they really believe. The key is drawing them into a place to where they live out of the same truths and scriptures that God has formed in you when they're when you're not looking. And so the way into their heart, here's one of the secrets, and that is it's the art of asking great questions. I learned this from Bob Beale, who's probably one of the finest consultants that in American business, he's he's a legend. He had a uh he's a ministry called Master Planning and Incredible Teacher. And he taught me this many, many years ago, because when you ask questions to a child that's resisting you or a teenager who's maybe just flipped you off or said something or slammed their door, and you begin to ask questions instead of giving orders, you can move that child into an adult adult of conversation, which is the secret of reaching teenage kids. Because if you don't, if they're not, if they don't feel like they can speak, they're gonna shut you out. If they begin to believe that you don't care what they say, and by the way, when they go to school, they're hearing that from their friends. They want an autonomous life, they want to be able to do what they want to do. And and yet the more you're the more they believe that you care enough to hear and really understand what they're dealing with, it changes the whole thing. Now, let me ask you, here's a scenario. How many of you have disciplined your son with a big overreaction over something where they were trying to tell you the why? And you were you were just more, you are angry and you were provoked to anger because they did something that you think they should have never done. And and I remember just in one of those conversations, I won't tell you which one of my kids, and finally they were so exasperated. Well, they they said, Don't you want to know why I did what I did? I went, Oh, okay, tell me. And the issue was one of my children popped somebody at school, and I got a call from the principal, and it was like, you got to come down here. We don't like violence, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And, you know, I came in and I'm in the car, just, you know, giving him the fifth, and, you know, why'd you do this? And blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. You know, that's not what a McGlassan does, but that's exactly what a McGlassan does. I made all those same kind of mistakes. How about you? We seem to forget as we grow in the Lord as an adult that those experiences, think of all the mistakes that you made and all the things you wish you could take back. Well, that's where your son or your daughter is. And so finally he goes, Well, don't you want to know why? And I said, Okay, fine, what happened? And he said, The reason why I did this is because this guy really humiliated one of my friends who's a girl in the school, and she was weeping. And I told him he needed to stop. He flipped me off, and so I gave him the IQ sign. And I went, way to go. I'm so sorry. I I yelled at you. And it was like it was such an important lesson to understand the why. That's why questions are powerful to find out why. Because if you you're always barking in order, your kids are gonna resist you. And they're gonna say, so because the second half of this verse is so important, and that is, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Bring them up in the now, what it what is the heck does that mean? Many read the scripture and they think, you know, I'm just gonna teach my children and discipline them and teach them how to walk in the Lord. But see, the way, you know, way this verse is written, it's written from the the heart of a spiritual father riding into a church who basically taught them how to do that and brings an old testament concept with with a Jesus flavor. And that is when basically when they see how you live your life, it will give you credibility to help them see that that's the best way for them to live too, versus the old style of, well, don't do what I do, son. You got to be better than me and do what the Bible says. Well, that has absolutely no gravitas for your children. They're not gonna follow you because you're preaching the Bible to them. The the most powerful sermon, I'm gonna mention this a little bit later in our our talk today, that you preach, the most powerful one that is heard is the one they see in you. That's the one that's powerful. And if you take anything away from what I'm saying today as something that will really help you, is that don't underestimate the power of you living your life in front of them before the Lord. And then I'm gonna share some things with you to help them understand why you do. Because the promise of that verse then becomes that if you do that, it's gonna change their life and it's gonna give them the foundation that they need to have. See, here's a key point. Parenting is about cultivating love, understanding, and faith. All those together. And because if you don't have a relationship with your children, truth can't be shared, right? If you don't have their heart, hear me when I say this to you, they won't let you father them. It doesn't matter that you're paying for the food. It doesn't matter that you carry the authority. If you don't have their heart, don't ever forget this, as a dad or as a mom, they're not gonna follow you. But there's a way, there's there's more to learn. Here's next slide. Proverbs says, train up a child in the way you should go. Even when he's old, he will not depart from it. Train up a child. Here's another one. But for us to understand this first in context, the way people trained up a child is they live the life. Hey, Dennis, welcome here tonight. And uh Jacob and Oil 1958, Delane, and and Christine, good to see you again, and my 100x life friend. Is what it means is training and equipping of people during this in the Old Testament time is that it was the way you live in front of them becomes the loudest message that they see. And so when the Bible calls you to you know train up a child, and now listen, here's the secret to this it's in the words of Jesus and the words of Paul. Follow me. You want to train a child in the way it should go? Live the life and call them to follow you. Because when I get when I miss the boat with my children, it's because I'm preaching a truth I haven't quite worked out yet, hoping they will grasp it and know it. Or trying to get them to not make the same mistake that I made when I was young, trying to do that too. That doesn't carry the same credibility as when they live out of the revelation of scripture for themselves after they've first seen it in you. We've been looking at the verse, and you know, when Paul writes to Timothy and he talks about, I see this sincere faith inside of you, the same faith I saw in your grandmother and your mom. See, we transfer those incredible nuggets of uh a life well lived. Because when your kids see the way you live by faith, it'll give them great courage. I don't know if I I shared this last week in in our online men's community at the Fatherhood Academy, but my son, you know, lost his home in Pacific Palisade, say we're living up there, and and all the things were lost by the fire. And and as he's preparing to, you know, get the news even of the destruction of his car, his home, and and everything else. You know, he called me on a walk. He was actually in New York City at the time when the fire started. And uh he said, Dad, I've watched you and the way you followed God when the wheels were falling off, and when you lost, and when you had those things happen in your church, and and so you've shown me how to to handle this, Dad. I don't know about you, is there any greater compliment that your son can give you than them seeing the work of Christ in you as a dad or as a mom? And they live out of that same thing, and they trust in the Lord because they've seen it in their dad. You know, there's a lot of people talking about techniques of reaching your kids. Well, the most powerful thing you can do is you be a living sermon. Because if you are on fire, it'll make them uncomfortable, but it'll give them a way home. Here's the next slide I want to share with you. And that is uh see what when you're you're teaching your kids a way to do, you it it it changes your heart from giving them the rules to really showing genuine interest for your in your teenager's life and and kind of what they're doing. You know, one guy said it so well, listen more than you speak, your your your presence really matters. And that's so that's so important for your children to know that you're there. And and one of the things that I'm I'm so grateful to this. I I started out fathering so badly. And uh and then the Lord began to show me these incredible things. And and I and I began to see that you know that if to invest myself into those things that my children were doing, not just in the coaching, the coaching, playing, you know, being a football coach for my sons, that was sort of the easy route, but investing myself in my daughter's life too. And and so they both love singing. So I built them a little recording studio in their room and went in and made music with them and did worship with them, and it just unlocked them so much. As a matter of fact, both of them are extraordinary worship leaders today, and it started because they got to hang around with Jill and I, who love to worship, but I invested in that in them, and so when you begin to see those ways that God shapes your children, and you and you participate in that, and you come around them and you resource them, it changes everything. With my grandkids now, I have a number of them that just love art. You probably all grandkids love doing coloring, some grandkids just love writing on the walls, and I have those too. And and so I uh I build an art station here at my house when they come over, and then I give them art boxes, and and I celebrate them using that gift and just being present, and it just opens our dialogue so much together when they see that Papa now takes an interest in them, or you as a mom, or you as a dad, you're you're resourcing them and helping them live out a dream. It might not be an ultimate dream, but you being present is incredibly powerful for them. And so part of what that principle is, is that real listening really does more than your speaking does. Your present really matters with your kids, even when they're really broken. And let me say this for somebody who might be listening. And uh welcome, Alan. Thank you, Christine, for your comments. You know, when our when our kids are doing badly, there's there's a there's a camp of people out there or in psychology that says we just need to give them their space. Well, when we when we do that and we're not actively reaching out and loving them, they begin to believe, because I coach these kids on the other side of of you know, when they rebel and they run away from their children. And oftentimes they tell me, you know, and they're talking about their parents, they say, Well, my dad stopped calling me. When you interview the dad, the dad will tell you that the son screamed at him and says, I want to talk to you again. Now, this one particular dad's son, it's been 35 years since they had a conversation. And the son said to me, I just figured that my dad didn't love me anymore. I said, Why don't you call him? I said, Well, he's got to go first. Well, he learned perfectly from his father. So I got a father on the phone that said, Call your son. He won't want to talk to me. And boy, they reconnected, and it was incredible. That's why we don't quit pursuing. They want they might want boundaries in space, which sometimes that means they don't want a sermon. They want they want to know, and this is where my my adult children are, they want to really know that I believe that they can hear from God themselves and make even a better decision than me. That's golden if you get that from me tonight. I've had to learn that so many times. Because I I uh you know, I was big at I want to rescue my kids and take care of them, but that was more about me. But when they begin to believe that they are smart enough to hear seek the Lord and make great decisions, and you celebrate that, that'll draw your kids to you more than anything else you do. And you might be saying, Well, what if my kids are making really bad decisions? Well, you keep pursuing them until they are willing to let you in to help them. Remember I said in the very beginning of this, with teenage kids and older children, we get the father and mother through permission. Without permission, we just become another sermonizer to them. And that's why it's so important. And, you know, I've had I've had moms who, you know, in coaching families tell me that, you know, they're they're they're refusing to forgive, for instance, because they think they've earned the right by serving their children that their kids would never cut them off. And they get hurt and they get angry. And so the the most important thing you do as a couple, as a mom or dad, or as a grandfather or grandmother, is to forgive consistently, regularly, so that bitter doesn't grab your heart and keep you from making that phone call. Well, you might be saying, well, they need to call first. They're the one who did it. Well, I just say let the bigger person go first. Let the most holy person go first. Because you just never know what would happen. And I could tell you story after story, and maybe another night I'll share some of those. I don't kind of stay on point with you with our time tonight. Just go first. Here's the next thought I want you to think about. And that in Deuteronomy says, and these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. And here again, here's Moses speaking to the people of Israel. You shall teach them diligently to your children. Well, here again, we've sort of misrepresented this in that we are just teaching them the Bible. And there's a place for that. And I wanted to share something with you that happened to me as a preacher years ago. And I remember one day, just in my quiet time with the Lord and preparing for a sermon one Sunday. And and realizing I was just in a season where I didn't feel like I had a lot of traction with the people. And the Lord showed me that they follow people who live out of the sermons that they preach. Oh. So it's not the truth that you know that sets you free and gives you a message to your children. It's the truth that you do. And the more you live that out in front of them and confess to them and model humility to them when you blow it. You'll do more for helping your kids reconnect to you and the Lord than anything else you do. Because when they see that you're human, it changes the game. I I remember an issue I had with one of my sons. And I wanted to confront him. And I said, Lord, how do I how do I do this? I get so angry. And he said, Well, why don't you tell on yourself? That's not what I wanted to hear. I want to be right. I didn't I want to dig up the past. And so I I went into the room and got home from high school and and I said, Do you know when I you know I I have something that I've been doing that I want to confess to you that I really need you to pray for me because I I I have some things that have grabbed me that I need help with. And it happened to be very close to what they were struggling with. He said, You dad? And I said, Yeah. He said, What do you want me to do? I said, Would you would you just I'm gonna confess and I want you to pray for me. And we'll just go before the Lord together, and I want you to pray for me. Your dad would have more victory with this. And I'll never forget the look on his face. And he, one of my younger sons, and he just said, Okay. And I could tell he felt a little awkward, but at the same time, he goes, he put his hand on me and he prayed for me. And I just it just meant so much. I hugged him. I said, Thanks, son. I was walking out of the room. He goes, Hey dad, I'm struggling with the same thing. You yeah, and he just confessed it to me, and I prayed for him and and hugged him. And he just I was walking out and his his countenance just completely changed. See, it's when we model who we really are before the Lord in front of our children, it gives them a roadmap to connect to him. And that's just incredibly powerful. See, it's not all the scripture you know, it's and it's important to memorize scripture and all that. It's not all the sermons you can sermonize, but it's being a living epistle. The epistles were the letters, right? Uh written to the churches. But to be a living version of that epistle that you're trying to work out with all your your frailty and and all the things in your life. Because when you when you live that way in front of your children, you give them great hope. You give them great hope. Okay, let's go to the next slide. We'll we'll tie this together for you tonight. See, you're and I said this in so many ways, your actions is the loudest sermon they will hear. They're watching you. And so here's the key point. You share your faith openly with them, you share your struggles openly, and you share your victories with them. Most of us, and and and I maybe, maybe I'd just say this is my style, and you can say this if this was you or not. My style was to share my victories with them. And yet they they they couldn't relate, but when I started sharing my weakness and how I needed prayer, boy, it it just did something inside of our family. And it gives them the tools to deal with the hard times they're gonna be in. And so that's that's a powerful, powerful thing. Here's the next life. And so what that does is it helps us create this safe place for sharing thoughts, feelings by modeling that to them, right? They they need to know how you're processing stuff, they need to know uh how you're dealing with stuff. And and you let them know, you know, even their questions or even their doubts are are great learning things. We we want our kids to never doubt God. But we doubt God sometimes. And so being honest about how you deal with it is liberating for your son or for your daughter when they see that dad struggles too. And man, it you know, and because you want to you want to find places to celebrate in your children as they're growing. And here's just a little side thing just kind of jumped in my brain. But I used to do this when my kids would come and share with me something they're learning from the Lord. I would always try to, I always added like a sermon addendum to it. And I realized I could see their countenance and their face change when they're learning something. And then I started to go, that's amazing. Wow. So proud of you. You do that, God's gonna keep blessing you, son. You're really hearing from the Lord. You highlight what you want, you don't just highlight the truth and go, Well, haven't I been telling you that for years? Which is unfortunately the style that we get involved in too often because it was maybe the way you were framed or coached, or I mean, even the nature of the way church is set up, you know, you got a guy preaching the truth to you, inviting you to deal with with those things. But it those sermons you never forget. I'll I'll never forget this moment, and this is the private moment. I won't mention his name. He is a world-class pastor and leader, and uh he's getting ready to go out at Promise Keepers and preach to 55,000 men in a big stadium. And he had been bombarded the night before with just this lust that was hitting him. And he would battle it all night and barely slept. He knew the enemy was trying to take him out. And he says, Men, before I go on that stage tonight, I need you to pray for me. And I just confess to you, I've been I've been battling this lust all night long. And I uh trying to ask the Lord why, you know, why is this attack kind of hitting me the way it did? And he and he just he confessed that not that he had part taken it of anything or watched porno or or something on TV. He just you know confessed his his the temptation of lust that hit him, that he kept confessing back to God in this spiritual battle against himself. He said, I can't go out there and preach, man, until you guys lay hands on me and we we pray for him. And I was I was like, I was this is amazing. Because he's one of my my heroes of the faith who's lived the life and loved his wife, great grandpa, great church, faithfulness, gave his church to his son-in-law, who's a powerful preacher that he equipped in the Lord, and and then he went out there and stood in front of 50,000, 5,000 men, and he goes, Man, how many of you have been battling the lust of the flesh in your life? Then he shares the thing he dealt with. I mean he rocked it, I mean fifty five thousand men at the altar call and him calling men to sexual purity and the power. I mean, it was extraordinary. But that amazing event that took place out there was first dealt with with brothers. And see, he was obeying James, which says to confess your sins to one another so that you might be forgiven and saved. Something happens when we include other people in those stories. And there's wisdom in sharing things to men that you don't your kids, but there's also incredible power when you start sharing some of the same struggles with your your children that you struggle with, that they struggle with. So finally, what I did wanted to share with you tonight is this the the really the last part of this connection is to share your prayer life. And I've been talking about this for the last few weeks. But the Bible says, don't be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. What happens when the pressure gets on you? See, when we're praying for and with them, something changes in our family. And when we're teaching them to pray, it uh and they get and they get an answer, it changes their prayer life. See, and here's kind of that the key idea. The more they see God answering their prayers, the more they're gonna follow him. And that's exactly what you want to have happen. And I want to end with this story, and we'll have if you got it got any questions too, you can uh shoot up in the chat. But I remember years ago, and and this is where I I sort of learned it, is something that God had done in my own life. And my my son, he came to me and he was getting ready to turn 16 years old, and he was really frustrated because he wanted to get a car, and he only had a limited amount of money, and his grandma helped start a car fund for him. And and so he wanted a car, and he was frustrated because everything he looked at was a beater. And and so I said, Well, have you ever if you told God what kind of car you want? And he said, No. He said, Why don't you just pray right now? And I think God God wants to give you this car. And he just wasn't having, he goes, Fine. I said, So you pray, I'll agree with you. Okay, fine. God, I want an Eddie Bauer, doesn't have to be brand new, used, two-tone, white on the top, with a stripe, gold bottom, custom wheels, a bronco, and it has the luggage in the back. In Jesus' name. And he prayed it just like that. I kid you not. And and he and it was like, okay, are you happy now, Dad? And I would say within a minute after that prayer, we're sitting there watching a football game or something. The phone rings. Hey Ed. It was my friend Jason, who happened to own car lots. He goes, I think I just found the perfect car for your son. I have my speakerphone. And Edward's odd goes, whoa. And he goes, Eddie Bauer, two-tone, white on top or cream color, and gold on the bottom, custom rims, and it's even got the original luggage. And he says, and I'll give it to you for a special price. He names the price. It's like$5,500. It's worth$20,000. It's exactly the amount of money Edward had. Do you want that car? And I went, yes, ship it. They shipped it to us from Texas. My son Edward jumped up as a 16-year-old kid on our bed, like Kermit the Frog. And I'm watching the Lord just birth faith in him because he connected. And when we we teach him how to connect to God in prayer and pray for them and and agree with their prayers and say, hey, I want you to pray for this. And I'll agree with you. Even though their prayers aren't going to be eloquent or praying just right, God loves answering those prayers. And I've watched the faith and life of my son Edward and Josh and Lucas, my daughters Mary and Jessica on how they've learned to pray and see God come through in amazing ways. And that's an incredible inheritance that you can sow into your children when you pray. Well, that's all I got to share with you tonight. But I'd love to pray with you tonight. I know that there's uh a number of you that really uh need a need a breakthrough. You need a breakthrough with your children right now, with your sons, your daughters, with your heart. And I would just love to pray with you. It'd be an honor to pray with you tonight. And so why don't we uh close this with prayer? And I have just a short little video outro after. If you want to get a hold of me and you have something specific that you want prayer for, we're here and would love to pray with you. You can email me and get a hold of me. Let me throw up a few things here for you. Here we go. If you got a prayer request and you need special prayer or coaching, you can get a hold of me at edtandy at blessing of the father.com and would love to meet with you and connect with you. If you've not uh heard about our new men's thing, get a hold of me. I want to talk to you. Also, I'll share with you about our fatherhood academy that uh we're launching right now. And so if you get a hold of me at Ed Tannya BlessingOfthefather.com. That also comes with a free short coaching appointment with an issue that you might have uh in your family, but you got to get a hold of me and we'll send you the link. All that to say, let's pray. Father, thank you for my friends that have been watching tonight. I'm so grateful for them. I'm so grateful for the lives they have, the ministries they have. Uh I ask you that you'd be with them. You you'd bless all of them, that too many names for me to count here. But you'd bless them. My friend in 100x life movement, uh, bless him, Lord, and all the men he's reaching, and Christine and and M. Allen and and Diaz and the other ones that uh I can't really see here on Instagram and TikTok and X and Facebook. Lord, I pray you would touch all of them and the needs that they have. And I ask you to be with them. I ask you to meet them, Lord. I ask you to to equip them to be the best father they can possibly be. Or if they're a mom watching, the best mom they can be in the name of Jesus. I ask you to be with them. You'd fill them, you'd bless them, you'd use their life for glory, and that their children and their children's children would grow up and call you blessed. In Jesus' name. Amen. Hey, great to be with you tonight. Uh, if check out this little outro that we did, it's been such an honor to be with you. And uh and share the word, join our YouTube channel if you want to get it there or their Facebook, and you'll get make sure you put on that notification to see when we do shows. And on Thursdays at 12, I have a great show with the gals. The difference a mother makes. It'd be a great place for your wife to check on. Go to our Facebook page. You can find out the father difference on Facebook and YouTube and X and all of them. Well, Lord bless you. Have a great night.

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Dear friends, imagine a world where every father feels equipped to lead with faith, love, and purpose. A world where families thrive and communities grow stronger because of devoted, Christ-centered fathers.

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You know, beloved, that is the vision that God's put in my heart for every single family. You know, he is on the move, I believe. He promises in Malachi that before the great and coming day of the Lord, he's gonna do something profound. He's gonna turn the hearts of fathers back towards their children. So the hearts of their children will turn back to their father. That's what God is doing. I meet dads daily who want to learn to be better fathers. Yet many have never been shown how. Too many families are being fractured through bitterness, and with parents and grandparents even being canceled. That's why we're launching an online community to quit men to be the fathers that God has called them to be. It's more than a program, it's a part of a movement that God is already doing to reshape fatherhood. It's a sacred calling rooted in the teachings of Christ. And we're calling this the Fatherhood Academy, where men will embark on a journey of healing and spiritual restoration that helps them transform their family relationship. And to make this vision a reality, would you consider partnering with us financially as we continue to reach and disciple every man, dad, and grandpa that comes our way? Your donation will help create a ripple across the neighborhoods, communities, you know, and ultimately our nation. Anchoring each child, your division, and the unwavering love and guidance of a devoted dad. Your end-of-the-year gift right now, whether it's a one-time donation or an ongoing pledge monthly, will make a huge difference. Together, we can equip fathers to build hope-filled futures for their children and their grandchildren. Remember, my friend, the father loves you. And he sent his son to let you know. Pray it for you. Pastor Ed.

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